Well. I was hoping for more than three questions, but that's okay :) If anyone else thinks of something, go ahead and leave it in a comment and I'll answer it next time!
Allison asked, "How long did it take the 'I feel bad for not blogging regularly' guilt to go away while you were on hiatus? ;)"
It never went away! To be honest, I probably thought about how I should be blogging every single day. But once I missed a month, then two months, then three months, etc., it just kept getting harder and harder to do a post because of how BIG that post would need to be! When Dallas had her first birthday, I thought -- this is it. NOW I need to really blog again. But I didn't. Then when we started thinking about having another baby, I thought that I really should be blogging again before I got pregnant. Then I found out I was pregnant...then we found out we were having a boy...then there was the whole pregnancy to blog about...and Dallas's second birthday party...then Bradley was actually born...
That was what did it. I knew I'd regret it forever if I didn't at least start blogging again and write out his birth story. It's only fair to him, since I documented every single week and took tons of pictures when I was pregnant with Dallas. Now that I've started back, I don't want to get into the non-blogging slump again...hence this post :)
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Amanda asked, "What's the hardest/best part about being a mother of two?"
Wow, this could be a really long answer. The best part is that I've got TWO KIDS to love. And that is really wonderful. It's also amazing to see their reactions every day when Dustin comes home from work. They both love their daddy so much. It's also great having two kids to share with our families -- more to go around for all the grandparents :)
I'll be honest, though -- so far having two kids has been tough. Dallas really did not do well the first few weeks after we had Bradley. At times I would look at her and really feel like she was a different child -- like I didn't even know her any more because her disposition had changed so much. Thankfully, she has pretty much gotten over most of that, but we're definitely going through a trying age. She is still a really good little girl, and I am thankful for how well behaved she is about 90% of the time, but man can that kid flip a switch and go crazy in a split second. It catches Dustin and me off guard every.single.time. since most of the time it comes out of nowhere. She’ll go from calm to kicking, screaming and thrashing about in a matter of seconds, and it seems like nothing we do can stop her. It’s really fun when that happens out in public – like in Target or the parking lot of Al’s Pizza! I know a lot of it is because she's not getting as much attention as she used to and because as she's getting older she wants to be more independent, but there's not much I can do about that when it's just me, Dallas and Bradley alone together during the day. Dividing my time between the children is really a struggle -- especially since Dallas does get the short end of the stick pretty much all of the time.
It’s also hard because my two babies have been so very different that sometimes it’s almost like being a first time mom all over again. I am so blessed to have had two good babies, but Bradley could not be more opposite from what Dallas was as an infant. We had to work HARD to get Dallas to smile and laugh, but Bradley smiles at anything and everything! Dallas liked to have her own personal time and would pretty much beg (as much as a baby can beg) to be put in her swing when she was over stimulated. Bradley would love to be held all the time. The biggest challenge, though, has been that where Dallas was pretty much born sleeping through the night and pretty much made up her own little daytime schedule, making life fairly predictable, Bradley is all over the place. One night he'll sleep 4-5 hour stretches all night and have no problems sleeping in his bed, and then next night he'll wake up every single hour. There were about 4 nights last week where he slept in his swing the whole night, and that was the ONLY way he'd sleep. And last night, for example, I put him in bed around 8:30pm and he slept like a rock till 12:30am. After that, he woke up at 4:30, 6:30, and 8:30am. Each time, he takes 30-45 minutes to eat plus a diaper change, so we're up for nearly an hour every time he wakes up. To say that I am a walking zombie the majority of the time is an understatement. We are trying to get Bradley on a Babywise schedule, but until that happens and he is sleeping a little better through the night, I pretty much dread bedtime because I never know what to expect.
When Dallas was a baby and up until Bradley was born, Dustin and I pretty much cared for her equally when we were together (apart from my nursing her, of course). Now, when Dustin is home, he's pretty much on Dallas duty and I take care of Bradley. This makes me miss Dallas so much, but for now it's the best we can do. I still try to rock her for a few seconds (literally...seconds) a few times a week before she goes to bed, but pretty much the only real close time we have together is whatever I can sneak in during the day while Bradley naps. I miss the days of tucking her in to bed and laying next to her and smelling her hair while we say her prayers. Again, I hope to be able to do more with her once we've got Bradley on a better schedule.
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Nikki asked, "How does being a stay-at-home mom compare with being a working mom?"
Being a SAHM is the BEST. I absolutely love knowing this time that I don't have to go back to work. When I had Dallas, I was hoping to never have to go back to work, but obviously that didn't work out for a while, and the uncertainty those first few months really put a damper on the time we had together in the beginning.
I remember writing at one time about feeling panicked every moment I didn't spend with her over the weekends and on days off because I knew our time together was limited. It was awful. I am so thankful that I don't even have to think about that this time. I didn't enjoy Dallas's first Thanksgiving and Christmas as much as I wish I would have because of the work issue. I'm glad that I won't have the same feelings about Bradley's first holiday season. I am also so relieved not to have to be getting up every day to go to work while also dealing with Bradley's non-sleeping issues. I can't imagine how hard that would be.
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And there you have it, folks. My first “ask me anything” post is done. And I guess it’s good that more of you didn’t show me love by commenting since just those three questions made for such a long post! In the next couple of weeks, I’m going to try to do a recap of Dallas’s 1st and 2nd birthday parties and post some pictures from our family vacation this past summer. I’m also going to really try to just keep up to date with posting what is CURRENTLY happening with us, so here’s an up front apology for how in-cohesive the layout of my blog posts may be from here on out.
Last but not least, here’s a picture of our sweet boy. I call this one “CRAZY EYES.”
Until next time! :)